Jan 02

When two years ago I decided to move to the Philippines and live in a southern island city in Mindanao called Davao, I knew that I’d find a lot of cultural differences between my old home country – the United Kingdom – and my new home country. Language, food, TV, traffic, the general attitude of people: they all came in ways that surprised me, sometimes pleasantly, and sometimes unpleasantly. But I’m not complaining! While I knew that I had to make adjustments, I also knew that the differences were what made the idea of living somewhere else a very attractive idea.

One of the differences was in the department of gay dating. Being gay in the Philippines is a lot different indeed from being gay in UK. And a lot more promising, being that I like brown skin, black hair, smooth body, little feet. But while Filipinos – and Asians in general – may see a white man in their country as a kind of commodity, thus making it a lot easier for people like myself to stand out, I still found myself hardpressed – and, at the same time, hesitant – to get hold of someone whom I can really be intimate with. Some were just looking for fun. Some were just looking for funds. Some came in and then disappeared after the first night. Some didn’t even show up on the first night. Some cheated. Some were jealous in ways that I could never imagine. Some of the men were absolutely wonderful human beings, but were restrained by the Catholic upbringing that typifies the general Filipino way of life. Some, like in a gay spot in Manila I had visited a few years back, wanted to take advantage: I was drugged without my knowledge, or stolen from, or dismissed as a matchmaker who wasn’t serious about love himself.

Not that I wasn’t serious; being alone in a strange world, a different world, I was simply determined to exercise caution and not get too carried away in the dating scene. Still, from all the misadventures and mishaps of being gay in the Philippines, I learned that there also can be great fun and great joys – and that they didn’t necessarily involve sex or money or both. From hundreds of forgotten names and faces, I stumbled upon several who are worth remembering and keeping as my best friends. And from countless encounters in which I have been lost in translation, I discovered some real gems who not only respected our differences – but celebrated them, too.

Dec 09

In this day and age, everyone seems to be expecting to get everything for free.  And, of course, they also expect the highest quality products and services for free.  Having many years of experience in sales, I have had to deal with this evolution through many different venues.  Some of which actually made sense.  I’d like to focus on a few areas in which I side with the consumer in expecting something of high quality for free.

Music downloads.

OK, this has been a topic of great debate for the past several years.  It has even involved huge lawsuits and lots of publicity.  The problem is that the current generation of music consumers are so used to getting music for free, that they actually find it odd or simply “uncool” to have to pay for music.  Now, being a musician myself, I have a pretty good understanding of the ins and outs of the music business.  So, here’s my take on free music…

First off, the artists or songwriters have always historically gotten the short end of the stick when it comes to actually making money.  The large record companies typically got much larger portions of any profits then the people that slaved to produce their labors of love.  So here’s the simple solution.  It should be up to the artist whether or not they want to give their music away for free.  This can actually be a great way for an unsigned artist to promote themselves.  Now as far as the big, signed corporate music goes, it should not be free.  The main reason for this is the fact that it does cost a lot of money to create and record a great album, and promote it, and distribute it.  However, with the current trend of selling music digitally through downloads, this can cut many costs like printing, duplication, shipping, and storage of the inventory.  So, basically, music should be much cheaper, but not free (unless the artists chooses it to be).  There should be plenty of room for a compromise that would save the record labels a lot of money, while still paying the artists their fair share, and giving the consumer quality products for a decent price.  So, to sum things up, in the case of music, I feel that while it should not necessarily be free, there should some cases of free music, and that other music should be sold for a more resonable price.

Ebay. 

Now here’s an example of what I consider “corporate greed”.  Even though eBay is a well know, very functional quality website, time’s have changed, and they seem to be slow to respond.  One of the main reasons that I say that is Craigslist.com.  They have grown immensly in popularity, and still remain a free service (at least for a majority of the website).  I think it would be totally fair for eBay to continue charging their Final Value fees, and even the listing upgrade fees, however they don’t need to charge people for listing their items too.  Craigslist has grown so quickly because people can list in almost every category for free, and also avoid paying final value fees if the item sells.  Yes, eBay will give you a lot more exposure, however, since the listings are free, it doesn’t cost the seller anything to simply list on Craigslist and just wait it out.  Ultimately, you’ll make more profit for your item when it does sell.  I have sold well over 200 items on eBay, and have recently sold several more on Craigslist, which is now my preferred selling platform.  I do still use eBay, but only when they are having a special on listing fees, such as 3 cents per listing or something.

Online Dating.

You would think that online dating websites could justify charging for their services because what they are offering is a way for you to meet “quality people” from the comfort of your own home.  This is definitely a great convienence, and a fun way to meet many people without having to actually get all dressed up, and spend a bunch of money at clubs and bars.  However, once again, Craigslist has shown great popularity with the personal ads on their website.  The downside is that their site is extremely basic, so not only are you limited to the ways of communicating with others, and expressing yourself, but it’s also way too easy for spammers to quickly create fake ads too.  

Now comes the evolution of another free service.  As we see with the popularity of sites like Craigslist, people are constantly looking for free services.  One website in particular, FreePersonalClassifieds.com has found a simple solution.  They provide a quality online dating website with many of the same features as the expensive pay sites, completely for free, while earning revenue with a few simple ads on each page.  This is a true win/win situation.  The consumer gets a valuable service for free, while the business can actually thrive as well.  This should come as no surprise, since MySpace.com (which is also free) was sold several years ago for an estimated $580 million dollars because there was obviously huge money to be made in advertising, while still providing something of value for free.

So, the bottom line is this:  Consumers are always looking for free stuff, and for some smart businesses, there obviously is a way to provide something for free while still having a profitable business that you can still feel good about.

Dec 05

Honesty and openness with potential partners is of the utmost importance when you are single with herpes. This was important to you before you contracted HSV, why wouldn’t it be now? Let’s face it—it’s difficult to tell someone that you suffer from genital herpes. Now with online dating, we are meeting people who are almost perfect strangers much more frequently. Having to tell a stranger that you have herpes is not exactly how most people want to begin their first date. But now, there are sites out there that understand the problems single herpes sufferers face and are hooking up successful, happy couples through herpes dating.

Approximately 50 million Americans have genital herpes. That’s about twenty-five percent of the population! Herpes Simplex Virus or HSV is twice as common among people between 20 and 29 years old than it was twenty years ago. Studies show that as much as 80 percent of the herpes population is unaware that they have the virus. Although there is still no cure, scientists are working on topical solutions and vaccines that can help combat the spread of HSV. With treatment herpes can be managed and not transferred to your partner.

For singles with herpes, dating is complicated. Many suffers that are single find that dating with herpes is a headache. Having HSV isn’t easy. Neither is online dating. But now, online dating for people with herpes is easier than ever before. There are dating services and websites that specialize in herpes dating which help sufferers find partners who are also single with herpes. Single HSV sufferers are going online in greater numbers than ever before to herpes dating sites that offer privacy and protection without later guilt or embarrassment of explaining HSV to a love interest. Online dating for people with herpes just got less complicated.

At vddate.com, you’ll find a community of people that share many things: interests and hobbies; likes and dislikes; values, goals and dreams. What sets vddate.com apart from other online dating websites is that you don’t have to hide anymore—everyone seeking love and deep, meaningful relationships at vddate.com are living with Herpes, HIV or AIDS. If you’re single with herpes it’s time to pull your profile together and meet others like you. Search vddate.com for singles with herpes and forget the headaches and hiding. Move forward with your life and start enjoying the beginning of exciting new relationships at vddate.com

Nov 25

Why do so many men fail at online dating? After hundreds of hours of research, interviews and observations on how men and women behave when dating online, Sam Stone, offers the root causes for these failures. The research revealed the most common mistakes men make and the typical responses they get from the women they are trying to meet online, and most importantly how to stop repeating these mistakes and achieve a better online dating experience.

Sam stone’s research, results and ways to overcome these mistakes can be found in this book. Here you will also learn: 

  • How to get instant success online without even having a picture posted! 
  • How to get women to go out on a date with you without even having to talk to them on the phone! 
  • What to talk about on a first date with a woman you meet online. 
  • 100s of examples that you can copy and paste that I’ve used to meet women online. 

visit www.onlinedatingpro.com for more info.

Nov 25

When the economy is in bad times it’s nice to have a place to go where you can get something for free. A new free online dating site at Clicktions.com has emerged and looks to be a great place to find that special someone. With a lot of other free online dating sites you tend to get what you pay for, with Clicktions the site has some special features already in place and they have some planned to roll out in the near future. With the support level and user friendliness it is easy to see that the site is right up there with what you would expect with the big players.

One of the great features that stood out was the forums section, this area looks that it can be a great place for members to socialize and discuss a wide array of topics from whatever comes to mind
from its members.

If you are on the lookout for a quality, free and easy to use place to find a partner then go to the easy one page sign up form at Clicktions.